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Buddhism and anger 
24th-Sep-2010 10:38 am
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From Tricycle:
"…lovingkindness—maitri—toward ourselves doesn’t mean getting rid of anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy, we can still be angry. We can still be timid or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It’s about befriending who we are already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are. That’s what we come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest."

— Pema Chodron
Related: In the book Good Life: A Zen Precepts Retreat with Cheri Huber, Cheri discusses why the Precepts (at least, the version that's used at the Zen Monastery Peace Center) state the relevant Precept as "not to be angry", not "not to get angry". (Paraphrased from recollection of what's in the book; it's been a while since I've read it.)

Also, from Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness by Sharon Salzberg:
Buddhism doesn’t teach that we should ignore or repress our anger; in fact it teaches the opposite. When we start to get angry we should turn toward it, study it fearlessly and come to know it as well as we can. The theory, like pretty much everything else in Buddhism, is that this willingness to know ourselves expands our freedom of movement. It lets us choose our path of action, harnessing the energy of anger without being driven mindlessly along by it.

This is an important skill to learn, because anger will always be with us. No matter how far we advance in the spiritual journey, it’s not too likely that we’ll wake up one day as saints, miraculously immune to the slings and arrows of outrageous outrage. In fact one of the best of the current candidates for sainthood, the Dalai Lama himself, was asked in a conference whether or not he ever got angry. He responded as though he’d been asked whether or not he still got hungry or thirsty: "Of course", he said. "If something happens and I don’t like it, if it is not what I want to have happen, anger arises."
Comments 
24th-Sep-2010 10:17 pm (UTC)
Wow, this is really relevant to me right now.

Also I'm reading The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, for which Salzburg wrote the forward.

Edited at 2010-09-25 01:56 am (UTC)
24th-Sep-2010 10:48 pm (UTC)
Insightful. I would have guessed the Dalai Lama wouldn't get angry at all, but it makes sense that he has simply mastered his anger.
26th-Sep-2010 10:47 am (UTC)
Sounds like the effort I've been making in earnest for the last several months in response to heightened levels of responsibility and stress making real peace and happiness seem much slipperier than I like them to be.
27th-Sep-2010 05:28 pm (UTC)
Dood, I lost your number. TXT me.
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