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So what does "married" look like? 
5th-May-2006 10:52 am
While standing by my desk yesterday, waiting for me to look something up, a co-worker asked about the photos I have up. "That's my dad," I said, pointing, "and that's my husband."

"Oh, you're married?" he asked.

"Yeah, eight years this summer," I said.

"Huh. I didn't realize you were married. You don't carry yourself like a married lady, I guess," he replied.

So now I'm wondering what "married" looks like, and how I might carry myself differently.
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5th-May-2006 06:34 pm (UTC)
That may well be it. Aside from me, the other married people in my department are all in their 40s, and most of them have kids.

I'm choosing to view it as a compliment. Life's too short to go looking for insults where none are intended. :-)
5th-May-2006 06:35 pm (UTC) - Frumpy.
I don't know if it has anything to do with marriage, but I like the word!



5th-May-2006 07:16 pm (UTC) - Re: Frumpy.
Have you ever seen the clothing section of the Vermont Country Store catalog?

As spiritualmonkey says, "Proof you don't have to be frumpy to dress frumpy!"

6th-May-2006 04:44 pm (UTC)
Maybe this person thinks married women are supposed to look beaten down or something. In the figurative sense, not the literal. The weight of marriage being too heavy to bear or some such.
People are wierd.
8th-May-2006 05:11 pm (UTC)
That might be it.

It's amazing what silly ideas people have about marriage, I find. The one that particularly irks me is the idea that "men don't want to get married and have to be dragged into it kicking and screaming." What I remember from our wedding is standing in the hallway with my dad, waiting for the signal to walk into the chapel, and hearing my attendant Sharon say, "Somebody tell Pirate to stop dancing — he has to get married now!"
8th-May-2006 09:57 pm (UTC)
We have had people flatly deny that we are married (13 years). It seems that we are happy and affectionate and that is deeply inconsistent with being married.

I would suppose that comes from one's experience. Mine has been good.
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