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No, really, I'm fine. No, really, I'm fine. No, REALLY, I'm FINE. 
16th-Dec-2011 10:46 pm
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People who aren't bike-oriented sometimes have a very hard time understanding that for bike-oriented people, being on the bike is not a hardship.

I went to a party tonight with some work friends and had a very nice time, but did wind up bumping into this.

"Oh, it's so late — you should just put your bike in the back of my vehicle and let me give you a ride home!"

Hey, thanks, but it's cool. I like riding home.

"But it's dark! You shouldn't ride home when it's like this! Put your bike in back and I'll drive!"

Um... thanks, but really, it's not a problem. We've been car-free for four and a half years now. You know what I do when it's dark and I need to get somewhere? I ride my bike.

"This is Oakland. It's just not safe. I'll wait outside the garage while you unlock your bike and you can put it in back."

HNGGANGGNAGGNAAAA!!!! *deep breath* Really, truly, I appreciate your concern for my well-being. It is FINE. I will be FINE. I know where I'm going and how to get there and how to look out for myself on the way. And, in fact, considering it's Friday, after five days of eight-plus hours under the fluorescent lights with people around me all the time, one of the things I look forward to is being able to stop on the way home and spend some time in a deserted park ALL BY MYSELF getting some introvert recharge time.

But I didn't feel like making an issue of it, so I wrestled my bike into the back of a co-worker's minivan and let her give me a ride home.

I am grateful for their concern for my safety, I really am. And I wish I'd gotten to ride home and stop on the way. :-(
17th-Dec-2011 06:49 am (UTC)
I've already started running into this and so far (aside from a trail ride along the Green River) I haven't been more than five miles from home and mostly during daylight.

Though I've discovered that I like riding at night. The Mr., not so much.
17th-Dec-2011 05:19 pm (UTC)
"This is Oakland. It's just not safe."

*considers homicide for the good of the community*

Being alone is critical for some of us. I was invited to go out with work people last night to party because it was the holiday season. I barely managed to contrive a situation where I had to stay at work and then snuck out and was able to walk home in peace and serenity.

Yes, I walked the streets in the dark of night in dangerous, dangerous Oakland. Whatever. Apparently I lived.
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18th-Dec-2011 09:40 pm (UTC)
I think part of being secure is knowing you can probably take out one assailant, but most of it is just looking confident. If you are clutching whatever you are carrying and looking left and right as if afraid of an attack, you are a target. Doesn't matter what town you're in. If you just stride through only the brave punks will try to touch you, and even then you already have the upper hand.

Certain towns do seem to get a worse rap than others, though, and Detroit is up there.
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